So this girl I've been dating for about a month and a half has been showing me signs of being very self conscious. I've constantly told her I do not like when anyone-man or woman,-shows up at my house unannounced because that makes me very uncomfortable and I house not to deal with it no matter what. it was last night, I just got home tired from working 12 hours and I hear someone yelling my name "llaacccooyyyyiiiaaaaa" from outside. I knew immediately who it was I instantly became pissed. she called me twice and since I didn't answer my phone she decides to pop up. I told her to leave an of course she wants to come up stairs thinking I'm hiding another female in my room. I don't have time for women who think this way and I don't need the drama.
I wouldn't even show up at my own moms house without her knowledge so someone else is differently not going to do that to me. so basically I'm going to give her the whole "this isn't working out for me" speech, I will try to be cold as ice to her but I cant make any promises.
Best of luck. I would definitely think things through before making such a big decision though, is this really a deal breaker?
ReplyDeleteWow!! Lacoyia.....run!! Seriously, it sounds like she's moving too fast and is very clingy. I would talk to her and let her know how it makes you feel and how it could cost her dating you. If she doesn't change then I would move on. But please be nice about it. She may not realize how this is bothering you and it may just be how she is. She may accustomed to acting this way. You don't want to hurt her or scar her. Be gentle. Best of luck :)
ReplyDeleteYes, WOWZERS.... It appears that this woman is very insecure. This is just the beginning of something that may become worse and worse. You must ask yourself if this is what you want at this stage in life.
ReplyDeleteFor a person like this, & I've been the insecure person/the "detective" before, this behavior is very difficult to change. It takes something within you to make the changes. There is nothing that you can do or say that will make her change right away. Even if you tried to, she will find the "wrongs or the lies" in what you are trying to tell her. Trust me, I've been "her."
It isn't a good place to be. It's a learned behavior. Again, something she will have to want to change. Make the decision that works best for you.